Please help have to know before i get my heart broke?

I have been seeing this Guy for two years and due to distance we had twice and it was awful. He could not get arouses either time and d after maybe ten stokes. I asked him was he gay cause this has never happened to me before he said no and said it was because I said no to a couple hours be 4. To validate his uality he asked his roomate "for men who sleep with women" does that statement alone say he's gay?